It’s true – social status is a massive factor in attracting women.
In order to feel attracted to guy, a woman needs to perceive that he is of equal or higher status to herself. A man who will ADD value to her life, rather than take value away.
In fact, when looking for qualities in a man, women rate status & resources right up there after warmth & trustworthiness.
It may sound like this means that women are all gold-diggers… but really, they’re not. The true reason behind women placing higher importance on a guy’s resources is actually biological.
Women are programmed to go for guys who seem to have what it takes to be able to look after them and their children –they want someone who will actually stick around and protect the family.
Because ultimately, a woman is at a very vulnerable stage when she is pregnant and it is a lot harder for her to raise children alone than with a partner. And the type of man she wants is one who will be a pillar of strength by her side and able to give her whatever she needs.
You may feel like you have nothing special to offer – no fancy house, no six-figure job, no awards for your academic talents and no rippling 6-pack.
But here’s the thing: you don’t HAVE to be the richest, most famous or hottest guy around in order to project a high social status.
Status is actually more about demonstrating class, authority and independence.
Continue below to find out how to become a man who naturally attracts the praise, respect and admiration of others – a man who will get the girl.
Be a provider.
Ultimately, what is going to increase your ‘mate value’ to a woman is showing that you can PROVIDE.
Sure, money does come into it a little. Women at least want to know that you are capable of supporting yourself and aren’t waist-deep in debt.
So asking a girl you are dating if you can borrow money from her will probably be quite a big turn-off.
But even if you don’t have much money, you can still make small financial and practical gestures which show your providing instinct. For instance, you might cook her a nice meal at your house – which is cheaper than going out but also a lot more meaningful.
But there is much more involved in providing than simply have a bank account with a lot of 000’s at the end. Providing is also about consistently meeting a woman’s needs for warmth, safety, security and affection.
This means being there for her and making an effort no matter what. Even if the girl you like is currently just a friend, she may over time start to rely on you and recognize what an amazing relationship partner you could be.
Just remember to work on the areas below at the same time.
Be a Do-It-Yourself kind of guy.
This is about showing her that you have the skills and the initiative to do things for yourself.
A guy who doesn’t let others make decisions or do his work for him is a lot sexier than a guy who always turns to others for help or advice.
For instance, perhaps you are skilled in mechanics, wood-work, or building, and are often working on your own projects or are making adjustments to your house or car.
If this is you, be proud of it and be sure to casually slip your talents into conversations with woman. Perhaps you could even offer to fix her broken cupboard door or computer for her. Believe me, this will go far in increases your status.
Being able to do things for yourself shows that you are independent, worthy and reliable – definite hubby material.
What woman DOESN’T want a man who can fix the washing machine and build shelves for the kids?
Show pride in what you do.
You may not have the highest-paying job, be an award-winning artist or be in the national basketball team, but you can still be a winner in your field.
It’s all about how you communicate about what you do.
For instance, you may not necessarily have a job on par with ‘lawyer’ or ‘doctor’, but if you can speak with confidence about what you do and show that you are really competent in the field, this is something she can be proud of.
On the flipside, if you tend to complain about your job, slack around, never look for ways to improve and are constantly complaining about your colleagues or your insufficient paycheck, she likely won’t give you the time of day.
Pride is one of the most powerful emotions attached to a person of high status. And people who are proud of what they do work harder and naturally attract more accomplishment and prestige into their lives.
Pride is also associated with positive mental health and increased self-confidence levels. And you have all heard before that women are attracted to confident men!
Do everything you do to the best of your ability and keep pushing yourself to get even better – whether it’s in your workplace, your hobbies, or your academic or athletic pursuits.
Not only will you build on your own self-esteem, you will also start naturally attracting classier women.
Be informed.
Always be the guy who knows what’s going on. The more you know about what’s going on in the world and in your town, the more you will be able to input into conversations and the more people will look to you as a leader.
If you have interesting personal experiences to add to conversations, go ahead and speak up. Telling your own stories gives people you are talking to the impression that your life must be worth knowing about.
A high status man GIVES VALUE rather than takes value from those around him. This doesn’t mean he buys all his dates expensive gifts, it just means he gives women a fun and engaging experience when he’s out with them.
A woman wants a guy who she can turn to for advice. If you can learn to make great conversation and always have interesting knowledge to offer, you will become the one she turns to.
Be the guy who LEADS the situation.
Does this situation sound like you?
A woman asks, “What do you want to do this weekend?” and you reply;
“I dunno, what do you wanna do?”
If these are the types of answers you usually give, it’s time to change your communication. You are the guy who makes decisions and knows what’s going on, remember?
So throw words like “Dunno”, “Umm” and “Ahh” out of your vocabulary. These words are delay tactics, used when people can’t find the words they’re looking for or are worried about how to put across what they want to say.
Having high status means that you can make decisions and take charge. So if someone asks you your opinion or preference on something, you should be able to tell them exactly what you think or what you want.
Saying what you want to say and nothing more will mean that every word you add to the conversation is valuable. Being straight up isn’t about being bossy and obnoxious, it is just about having the confidence to put your ideas out there and move things along.
This doesn’t mean that ONLY your ideas are important – if you agree with what someone else has to say, you can voice support for their idea as well. But either way, make sure your voice is out there.
Stay classy.
Being polite has always been linked to people of a high class. And although language has evolved a whole lot over the years, the good manners and high status link remains.
Personally, nothing lowers the status of a guy more quickly in my eyes than when I hear that he uses swearing as part of his everyday language. If you use this type of language, you can’t expect to pull any classy girls.
You don’t have to be boring or geeky to have class.
Just make a conscious effort to always use your manners – especially “please’s” and “thank-you’s”. And avoid using any vulgar language in front of a girl you’re trying to impress.
Give out positive vibes.
People of a high status are always the ones drawing people to them in a room. Why? Because they are interesting and have such a lot of enthusiasm for life.
Status is contagious. When you laugh, others will laugh too. And when you are having fun, those around you will be having a good time. So make lots of jokes, smile and laugh whenever you can.
If you are someone who always seems to be in a good mood and sees the best in situations, it will automatically tell others that you are happy with your life. And trust me, woman will find this incredibly attractive.
So do the things that make you happy and brush off any negativity from others. The key to coming out as the bigger man when a guy has a go at you is to stay calm and relaxed.
If you let something get to you and you react, you are unintentionally giving off the vibe that that person has the upper hand over you.
However, if it barely even registers on your radar and you can respond with total calmness, they will come off as looking silly, overly aggressive and unreasonable.
If you can work on all of these areas, I guarantee you will increase your social status and start attracting the women you want.
Brooke Ryan
Author,
MeetYourSweet.com